Although neurons release neurotransmitter before contact, the role for this release in synapse formation remains unclear. Cortical synapses do not require synaptic vesicle release for formation (Verhage et al., 2000; Sando et al., 2017; Sigler et al., 2017; Held et al., 2020), yet glutamate clearly regulates glutamate receptor trafficking (Roche et al., 2001; Nong et al., 2004) and induces spine formation (Engert and Bonhoeffer, 1999; Maletic-Savatic et al., 1999; Toni et al., 1999; Kwon and Sabatini, 2011; Oh et al., 2016). Using rat and murine culture systems to dissect molecular mechanisms, we found that glutamate rapidly decreases synapse density specifically in young cortical neurons in a local and calcium-dependent manner through decreasing N-methyl-d-aspartate receptor (NMDAR) transport and surface expression as well as cotransport with neuroligin (NL1). Adhesion between NL1 and neurexin 1 protects against this glutamate-induced synapse loss. Major histocompatibility I (MHCI) molecules are required for the effects of glutamate in causing synapse loss through negatively regulating NL1 levels in both sexes. Thus, like acetylcholine at the neuromuscular junction, glutamate acts as a dispersal signal for NMDARs and causes rapid synapse loss unless opposed by NL1-mediated trans-synaptic adhesion. Together, glutamate, MHCI, and NL1 mediate a novel form of homeostatic plasticity in young neurons that induces rapid changes in NMDARs to regulate when and where nascent glutamatergic synapses are formed.